A Solution Based Approach for Divorce
Divorce can be a frightening and confusing process. You have to plan for a new future, but you don't know what that future will look like. You face emotional, logistical and legal concerns without the support of your partner. Often in opposition to your partner. When people are in conflict, communication tends to break down- right when they need it the most.
Mediation is simply the art of helping people have a good conversation. I help couples transitioning out of their relationships sort out the logistics of the separation or divorce. Allowing each person to express his or her needs and desires provides a chance for the couple to collaborate on finding the solutions that are right for them. Participants in family mediation create tailor-made arrangements for:
- parenting plans
- division of assets and liabilities
- financial support.
The agreements made in the divorce mediation process are typically used as the basis of the separation agreement, which can be drawn up by an attorney and filed in court. Divorce mediation helps couples avoid the back and forth, adversarial approach of attorney-driven divorce and allows them to build a positive post-separation, working relationship.
Mediation Makes Sense Because....
- Mediation Saves Money. According to Forbes Magazine, the average non-mediated divorce in the US cost between $15,000 and $30,000. High conflict, litigated divorces can run up to $75,000 or more. A mediated divorce can cost less than $2,000.
- Mediation Saves Relationships. Mediation can improve participants' abilities to discuss challenging matters that arise after the divorce or conflict is settled. A 12-year longitudinal study of the effects of mediation and lawyer-driven divorce demonstrates how mediation continues to yield positive results in parents’ relationships with their children long after the divorce is finalized.
- Mediation Saves Time. Mediation expedites the process of developing an agreement because both parties are at the table where an interactive dialogue is used to sort out differences of opinions, rather than waiting for attorneys to pass around memos.
- Mediation Gets Results that are Right for You. In mediation, you can create a plan that accounts for the particulars of your schedule, finances or relationships, rather than having a one-size-fits-all approach dictated by a judge or the boilerplate template used by many attorneys.