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		<title>What About What the Kids Want?</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2013/05/20/what-about-what-the-kids-want/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 May 2013 18:15:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In my judicial district and in my social circles, equal custody arrangements are the norm.  That means the children spend 50/50 time with their parents.  I&#8217;ve been a big supporter of this type of arrangement because it allows kids to develop strong relationships with both of their parents.  But it’s not always simple to execute. When [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Tell It to the Judge</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2013/04/02/tell-it-to-the-judge/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Apr 2013 14:57:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I can list plenty of good, solid reasons why people going through a divorce should mediate rather thanlitigate: saves money, improves parenting relationships, faster, more control over outcomes&#8230; I could probably go on. All logical reasons that really can’t be disputed much. Yet, only a small number of people choose mediation when it comes down [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Framing Conflict</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2013/03/26/framing-conflict/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Mar 2013 13:36:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Recently on a run with my friend Beth who is going through a challenging divorce, she unloaded her frustration  and anger about her ex’s requests as we picked our way through the roots and rocks of the trail.  Years of difficulty in their marriage had given her a hair -trigger for indignation, powerlessness, and injustice [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Start with a Mediator</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2013/03/12/start-with-a-mediator/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Mar 2013 18:47:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[With roughly half of all marriages ending in divorce, transitioning from married to not-married has become a regular rite of passage.  Unfortunately, many people are scarred from this experience.  It’s never a picnic to end a committed relationship, divide up a shared lifestyle and develop new arrangements for your children, but some paths through that [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Why I Mediate</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/11/15/why-i-mediate/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Nov 2012 21:32:06 +0000</pubDate>
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				<category><![CDATA[Sara Bensman Consulting Blog]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[communication]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Someone recently asked me what made me go into mediation.  I launched into a rather impassioned speech and at the end he asked if  I had written about this.  Evidently, I had more to say on the matter than I realized so I took his advice. I became interested in mediation because I saw in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Parenting Coordinator Myths</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/07/13/parenting-coordinator-myths/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Jul 2012 22:09:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; Every so often in mediation I get a parenting pair that just can’t seem to seal the deal.  Typically, they get stuck on a lot of relatively small issues, rather than the biggies.  For example, they will disagree adamantly about who should drive for pick ups and drop offs or they squabble over four [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Ignite Talk</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/04/13/ignite-talk/</link>
		<comments>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/04/13/ignite-talk/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Apr 2012 16:44:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; I&#8217;m excited to share this talk I did as part of the Ignite Asheville series.  I spoke about one of my favorite topics: conflict, or more accurately conflict resolution and how it can change the world.  Thanks to the wonderful people who organized the event.  (Yes, this is me even though they spelled my [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What to Give Up in a Divorce</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/03/28/what-to-give-up-in-a-divorce/</link>
		<comments>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/03/28/what-to-give-up-in-a-divorce/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Mar 2012 20:34:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here’s a question I’m sometimes asked: when is it OK to give up what you’re entitled to just to get it over with?  This is a great question and it gets to the core of mediation.  Naturally, there’s no simple answer to this question, but there are a number of issues to consider.  First, dollar [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Trash Talking, Round 2</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/03/05/trash-talking-round-2/</link>
		<comments>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/03/05/trash-talking-round-2/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Mar 2012 19:19:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My last post about slamming the ex generated some juicy discussions and those prompted me to write a follow up. It seems several people try very hard to watch their words, speak positively in their children’s presence and convey confidence in their ex-partner, only to have him or her do just the opposite. The questions [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Language of Divorce</title>
		<link>http://www.sarabensman.com/2012/02/29/thelanguageofdivorce/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Feb 2012 15:33:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Recently I was given an unpleasant lesson on my number one pet-peeve in co-parenting: complaining about the other parent.  For some reason, parents frequently live under the illusion that their children are blind to overt grumblings about former partners.  Parents talk under their breath, whisper on the phone, roll their eyes, and make smugly derisive [...]]]></description>
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