On December 9, Barbara Davis died in her home. Barbara was a champion of mediation and collaborative law, a musician, a bicycle enthusiast, a mother, wife, sister and friend. Barbara was my teacher, mentor and officemate.
Money. We love it. We struggle with it. We fight about it. Money touches some of the deepest recesses of our being, the tender spots where insecurities dwell. We fear we won’t have enough, even when we have always had enough to survive in the past. We want to be respected and valued for what we provide and to demonstrate good stewardship. We know money is a useful tool, but it can also be the root of all evil and equated with power. Here are some suggestions to overcome the obstacle of money in your divorce.
The woman I spoke with the other day called to see if mediation would be appropriate for her. She had just received a blow. In the course of her delicate discussions with her husband about a trial separation, she learned he was hiding an affair and the costs- both financial and emotional- blindsided her. She realized in that moment that he probably was not considering this a trial separation.