You are not the first person to find yourself attempting to raise strong, confident, loving children with someone you feel is crazy. I’ve noticed some patterns in high-conflict co-parenting. Here are 8 common traps that co-parents get stuck in and some tools for getting through them.
Without wanting to overwhelm you with yet another to-do list of best behavior, I wanted to share my top ten list of advice for co-parents.
I begin with the MOST obvious and pressing point: You Are the Parent. Seems obvious until you find yourself confiding your “true feelings” about the other parent’s new partner to your child or asking their advice about sex or indulging their desire to eat only Cheerios for six weeks straight or moping around the house like a lost puppy. If you’ve caught yourself in any of these acts, I recommend you write this one on the inside of both arms with a Sharpie.