It's official, Spring is just around the corner and the dreary days of Winter are behind us. What better time to clear our heads, attitudes, and shape some goals moving forward. This collection of inspiring quotes may be the ticket to help you get started:
As we wade through uncharted territory like separation or parenting coordination, everyone - at some point - could use a little pick-me-up. Whether you're struggling with confidence or feeling a little down from stress, these motivational quotes might help shine a light on the other side.
As I wrapped up a particularly emotional mediation recently, I urged my clients to take good care of themselves and to make an effort to heal and restore in the subsequent weeks. This is more than an encouraging platitude at the end of a tough session. I often say this to people in the course of separation or intense co-parenting disputes because their circumstances are traumatic. Literally. Intense fighting, being left by the person you have built a trusting relationship with, losing daily contact with your children or financial and legal anxieties create trauma that gets stored in the body. And that can come back to haunt us individually and in our co-parenting relationship for years if we don’t address it.
Money. We love it. We struggle with it. We fight about it. Money touches some of the deepest recesses of our being, the tender spots where insecurities dwell. We fear we won’t have enough, even when we have always had enough to survive in the past. We want to be respected and valued for what we provide and to demonstrate good stewardship. We know money is a useful tool, but it can also be the root of all evil and equated with power. Here are some suggestions to overcome the obstacle of money in your divorce.
The woman I spoke with the other day called to see if mediation would be appropriate for her. She had just received a blow. In the course of her delicate discussions with her husband about a trial separation, she learned he was hiding an affair and the costs- both financial and emotional- blindsided her. She realized in that moment that he probably was not considering this a trial separation.
The holidays. The warmth of family and friends. The festive meals and parties. The closeness of community. Or not. For many people, the holidays are a big fat let down. They shine a glaring spotlight on our lack of true connection, our loneliness or our deep-down-to-the-bone desire for something unnameable that is missing in our lives.