How to Change the World in 3 Simple Steps

How to Change the World in 3 Simple Steps

It’s easy to get overwhelmed and heavy-hearted in the current political, environmental, spiritual, and social climate.  Yet, conflict is one of the greatest methods of learning. Let’s also learn from the disruptive technology of mediation when we look for solutions to those conflicts. When it comes to expanding ourselves, connecting and healing, we need new strategies. Here are three of them.

How To Consider Another Point Of View

How To Consider Another Point Of View

Recently, I was talking with a client about learning to co-parent with his former wife against all the odds. Like many parenting coordination clients, the years since their divorce had only increased their antipathy for one another. But, One of the many gifts of my profession is that I am reminded almost daily that when two parents come together to decide something for their child, they generally make a better decision than either one could decide individually.

10 Quotes To Live By

10 Quotes To Live By

As we wade through uncharted territory like separation or parenting coordination, everyone - at some point - could use a little pick-me-up. Whether you're struggling with confidence or feeling a little down from stress, these motivational quotes might help shine a light on the other side.

Dealing with the Trauma of Divorce or Separation

Dealing with the Trauma of Divorce or Separation

As I wrapped up a particularly emotional mediation recently, I urged my clients to take good care of themselves and to make an effort to heal and restore in the subsequent weeks.  This is more than an encouraging platitude at the end of a tough session.  I often say this to people in the course of separation or intense co-parenting disputes because their circumstances are traumatic.  Literally.  Intense fighting, being left by the person you have built a trusting relationship with, losing daily contact with your children or financial and legal anxieties create trauma that gets stored in the body.  And that can come back to haunt us individually and in our co-parenting relationship for years if we don’t address it.  

5 Steps to Negotiate Equitable Distribution

Money. We love it. We struggle with it. We fight about it. Money touches some of the deepest recesses of our being, the tender spots where insecurities dwell. We fear we won’t have enough, even when we have always had enough to survive in the past. We want to be respected and valued for what we provide and to demonstrate good stewardship. We know money is a useful tool, but it can also be the root of all evil and equated with power. Here are some suggestions to overcome the obstacle of money in your divorce.

Sustainable Resolution

Sustainable Resolution

Everyone is using the word Sustainability right now.  Maybe it’s an overused word, but I’m not tired of it yet and I think it’s as applicable to conflict resolution as it is to farming practices. After a long run of exploitation and waste, we’re finally turning toward energy, manufacturing, transportation, and food solutions that allow us to maintain this planet a little longer and leave as little trace as possible.  In that same light, I propose that we get on board with sustainable conflict resolution and divorce.