Conflict Changes Us. Communication is the Tool Through

Most people facing a conflict, whether it is a separation with a partner, dispute with a loved one, or a transition at work, find themselves struggling with feelings of anger, frustration, loneliness and doubt while trying to navigate the unfamiliar and often confusing new situation.   They confront significant decisions that will impact their future just as communication breaks down and stress overwhelms their best decision making abilities.  Sara Bensman provides individuals, couples and groups a path through this process that maintains dignity and points toward peace and sustainability and away from the "scorched earth" results of typical divorce proceedings, antagonistic relationships or conflict situations.


Every situation is unique. Contact Sara to set up a free 15 minute phone consultation to discuss your situation and determine what services might help.


Sara assists people in making healthy decisions for themselves, their organizations and their families while reducing the tension and animosity that leads to conflict and stress.

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Asheville Ignite Talk:  What is the Opposite of War?

Radio interview  with Celeste Collins of OnTrack Financial about Relationships, Money & Communication

Radio interview with Celeste Collins of OnTrack Financial about Relationships, Money & Communication


Divorce can be a frightening and confusing process.  You have to plan for a new future, but you don't know what that future will look like. We can offer a collaborative approach to separation using simply the art of helping people have a good conversation. Do you need help transition out of a relationship? Would you like to figure out the logistics of separations or find a solution to lingering or ongoing matters? I can help by allowing each person to express his or her needs to find a solution right for both of you.  

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Online Mediation

There are times when it is too difficult to bring both parties into the same office for a mediation.  Maybe you live far apart, or the stress of being together gets in the way of productive conversation and decision making.  In those cases, online mediation provides a simple solution that might be perfect for you.

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Parenting Coordination

For some parents who have split up, the job of raising children together becomes extremely challenging. If you find yourself fighting more than focusing on your child's best interest, parenting coordination or co-parenting mediation can provide a supportive structure for moving beyond the patterns of conflict and can bring a pillar of stability to a tumultuous situation.

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I’m very, very, very grateful for the professional parameters of a mediation session. Sara’s skills were exceptional!”
Sara is very professional and talented at creating the right environment for mediation (good at reducing tension and setting the pace for results).”
I appreciate Sara’s way of viewing both sides and trying to make it as fair as possible for both of us considering the situation.”

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