In my judicial district and in my social circles, equal custody arrangements are the norm. That means the children spend 50/50 time with their parents. I’ve been a big supporter of this type of arrangement because it allows kids to develop strong relationships with both of their parents. But it’s not always simple to execute.
When children are tiny, we decide everything for them and they generally just go along with our decisions (as long as it doesn’t involve bedtime or food or TV or…). But as they get older, they start to voice their own opinions. This is inconvenient, but I’m pretty sure it’s a positive step in their development. The question is, what to do when they have opinions about which house they want to spend time in?